Oh Lord, let me be so focused on YOU that I only look up to see a guy because you whisper in my ear, "That's Him."

Guard my heart, oh Lord, that I would not play games with my brothers in Christ, but be an example of you in truth, modesty and in purity - that I would not cause my brother to stumble.

Purity- A set of Rules?

No. Purity is not a set of rules. Although, rules may help you remain pure that is not what purity is. Purity is a state of mind, it's where you set in your mind that you will remain pure and not waver from it. No matter what life throws at you!!! So, rules in the long run will help you maintain purity; but that is not what purity is.

Those that know me and my heart know this is how I truly feel. For years people said I would change..I would compromise, give in! I have learned a lot since I was a child and yes I do see some things differently, but I will not give up my standards that God has placed in my heart. I have discovered it is not easy..I do have to remind myself it will be worth it. I have learned NOT to ask God WHO & WHEN? But to simply trust He will direct my path & lead me to that special young man in His time & He will lead him to me in his time. I have prayed since I was a toddler for God to prepare my heart for him & his heart for me, so I know He will honor that if I am faithful to WAIT on Him. What the world sees as 'normal' is just a pit fall. I have never been seen as 'normal' why start now? I encourage you as singles to seek God with your whole heart & He WILL give you the desires of your heart. Love, Puritygirl ♥

[Jamie Grace] Boys, Boys, Boys

My girl Jamie Grace speaking up for Dating with Intentions. Love this girl.. Why do we waste our time with a guy or girl we have NO intentions of ever exploring a more serious relationship with in the future? I mean I know not every guy or girl you get to know is going to be 'the one' you end up in a courtship with, but if you know right off they are not the person you could ever consider for a courtship then why?!?!
 There is so much to do for God now while you are young before you are bogged down with work, family and all the responsibility of adulthood. The teen years are perfect for serving God and discovering what He truly wants for your future. I'm not saying - don't have a boy/girlfriend, that is fine as long as you've prayed about it and that person is a Godly person that can uplift you and not drag you down or keep you from building your relationship with your first love - GOD. We have to guard our heart and look out for our brother/sister in the Lord so that we do not cause them to stumble and fall. If we are dating without intentions  then we are setting ourselves up for a broken heart -WHY? For the sake of FUN like Jamie said? I don't need that kind of fun. I want to trust my heart to a guy that I believe will treasure it and I want to know that I am going to treasure his heart and not just play with it. Old Fashioned? Yes indeed and proud of it. The guy that gets me will get a real treasure because I am saving all I have for him. Like a gift no one else has ever seen or touched - a gift for him alone.
You can get to know a guy without jumping right into a 'dating' relationship before you even know you can be friends. Trust me if friendship doesn't work or you don't feel sparks or God's leading toward that person then he/she is probably not the one for you.

Girls are Like Apples on Trees. 

 The best ones are at the top of the tree. The guys don't want to reach for the good ones because they are afraid of falling & getting hurt. Instead they get the ones from the ground that aren't as good, but easy to get. So the apples on the top think something is wrong with them when in reality they are Amazing. They have to wait for the right guy to come along, the one who is Brave enough to climb to the top of the tree. If you are willing to wait for that brave knight in shinning armor to climb to the top of the tree, then you will be blessed by the guy that is right for you. *GUYS this could go for you too. Many guys are waiting at the top for that right girl to come along and capture their heart too. Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. 1 Corinthians 13:4-7 I've posted this before, but I always come back to it..it's just so true. Girls and guys, I know it's discouraging when you see guys or girls so often going after the wrong person or the wrong things. Take our relationship with Christ..it should be 1st in our life before ANYTHING else. He is our first love and always should be even when God does put that special someone into your life, he or she should never come before your God. He is constant He will be there when they will not be. As teens our feelings and emotions are usually all over the place and one day you may think OMG, he/she is so awesome it's all I can think about. If we are in the word of God and praying without ceasing then our first thoughts will still be of Jesus because he is our all consuming fire..the one that fills us from the inside out. Anyone else will always come second, I know a lot of teens don't want to be second in their boy/girlfriends eyes they want to be everything. I tell you if you are everything to them, then they are not seeking a holy God, they are not placing HIM as top priority in their life and your relationship will soon sink in despair, it can never be all God wants it to be. It does so often seem like guys and girls tend to go after the opposite sex that is easy to pick off the ground as this story goes, it's easy to see why..they usually flatter them, bat their eyes at them, make them feel like a million bucks because they are willing to give into any and every flirtation out there. God has a greater plan for us He has our life in His hands and He knows the one that is right for us. You may have been waiting, 'forever' it seems, but we have to be ready - spiritually, physically and mature enough to handle that kind of 'special' person in our life before He reveals it to us otherwise it will just be a passing fancy that will break your heart in the end. I've seen friends and family struggle with heartbreak to the point of depression and that is not of GOD. He wants what is best for His children. Allow Holy Spirit to guide your thoughts, your heart and your mind and ask Him to guard your thoughts, heart and mind that HE would be your first love and protect you from the enemy and all the nice looking guys/girls he puts in your path as a distraction from what Jesus wants for you. If you truly want that special guy/girl to find a place in your heart be patient and willing to wait for them, it will be worth it, I just know it will, because I know Jesus has our best interest at heart. Love Your Nazirite Sister in Christ, Puritygirl

Dear Single Girls

Dear Single Girl, I don't know you personally, yet, but there are a few things I want to tell you with the hope that I will get to know you some day. Actually, there are 5 things I want you to know: How to get a man’s attention The guy that you are looking for isn't attracted to charm as much as he is Godliness because beauty fades but Godliness GROWS (1 Peter 3:3-5). I know that the culture will tell you that guys are turned away and intimidated by girls that love Jesus and have strong values and convictions. Culture is wrong; boys may be turned away by strong convictions, but men are not. Be the woman God has called you to be, and a godly man will notice. Run from “Prince Charming” Some girls seem to give attention to every smooth talker and cool dresser that comes their way. Please don’t do that; be patient and wait on a man who is concerned with pursuing Jesus, not another trophy. Only give the GROWING, God fearing man a chance to pursue you. Charm is deceitful, and beauty is vain (Prov 31:30). I am just a guy, not a god A guy will crumble under the weight of being your god. No other person can complete you or make you happy. There are lots of great physical and emotional benefits that come from a relationship, but none of it is enough to sustain a healthy loving marriage if your faith is not in Jesus. No guy will complete you, so don't put him on that pedestal (he will fall). Don’t wait on me, pursue Jesus From my male perspective, there is nothing more attractive than a woman being obedient to Jesus and taking the risk to follow Jesus wherever He leads. Too many times I notice girls in the church just sitting and waiting on a man to come and rescue them from a life of boredom. When it comes time for me to pick a partner, I want somebody that can follow me on an adventure, not someone that is used to doing nothing and complaining about the fact that no one is interested in them. Pursue Jesus and I will pursue you when He gives me the green light. Time is not running out Singleness is a gift, not a curse. You want to be beautiful? Put your hope in God and don't give way to fear; trust his timing (1 John 4:18). Don't waste your single years by always waiting on what is next and turning yourself into a man chaser. Let’s follow God right now and trust Him to take care of the next. God is sovereign and able to direct both of us to each other when the time is right. Until Then, A Single Guy This post taken from New Spring Church. DO NOT give up hope young ladies.. There's Godly young men out there. Also check out "An open letter from a Single Girl to a Single Guy" http://newspring.cc/blog/articles/dear-single-guys/

Dear Single Guy

I got this from New Spring Church. I did not write this, but it is my heart.
 Dear Single Guy, I’m often accused of being picky, unrealistic, and setting standards that are way too high for you. However, I don’t think that’s true at all because I have faith in you. I totally believe that you can be the man God created you to be. So let’s set the record straight.... 1) I do have a checklist that I’m looking for in a guy. But there is only one thing on that list: Is he madly in love with Jesus? Relentlessly pursuing Jesus will lead you to make good decisions about your future and about how you treat me (Matt. 6:33). If you’re who Jesus wants you to be, then you’re who I want you to be. 2) I want to be pursued (Ruth 3:11, 18)! However, pursuit does not equal spending extravagant amounts of money on fancy date nights. I just want to be pursued with intentionality. I want to know that you think about me, that you pay attention to what I say, and that you are taking the time to really get to know me. I want you to make me feel special and like I’m worth the time it took for you to plan a date. 3) I don’t need you to have all the answers and to solve all my problems. I have a mind of my own and the Holy Spirit does live in me (John 16:13), so I can make decisions and find solutions on my own. Instead of being my problem-solver, I just need you to care about how I feel and what I’m thinking. Just taking the time to really listen lets me know you care about that. 4) I want you to lead me closer to Jesus…and I want to do the same for you. I want my walk with Jesus to inspire you to be a godlier man rather than intimidate you (Heb. 10:24, Prov. 17:17). 5) What you say really matters (James 3:2-4). Because I do feel things deeply, I keep a guard up with most guys in order to protect my heart. However, if you’re special and I’ve let you in, I do ask that you be careful with your words, only say what you really mean, and be honest. I want to know that I can trust what you say. Bottom line is this: Pursue Jesus right now, so He can show you how and when to start pursuing me. Until Then, A Single Girl You can also check out Wednesday's post. "An Open Letter From a Single Guy to a Single Girl" http://newspring.cc/blog/articles/an-open-letter-from-a-single-guy-to-a-single-girl/

I have posted 2 songs/videos for you today. I hope you enjoy them. "Wait for Me" is by Rebecca St. James - she has been a huge inspiration to me in my journey to remain pure. This song is my theme song as many of you know, it is the song I sing for my future husband, even though I don't know him yet - God does. The 2nd song "Haven't Even Kissed" is a great song too. It is a song I look forward to singing one day when I do meet my Beau. ;) I thought many of you would enjoy this song. I hope you are saving your Kiss for that special person God has waiting for you. Blessings & much love from your sister in Christ, Puritygirl

Wait for Me-Rebecca St. James

Haven't Even Kissed- Moriah Peters (lyrics)

SWEET 16!!!!!

    Sweet 16!

And never been Kissed?!?!

IT’S MY SWEET 16 EVERYONE!!!!  Well not quite… but almost!

I don’t feel any different yet… But it does seem like a big jump. Like when I went from 14 to 15 I was like… “whoa” it was kind of like moving from older preteen to full blown teen… now it’s like “dude” I’m fixing to be 16!! It’s kind of like being stuck between two different worlds again like you were when you were 12 or 13 except now I’m between teen and young woman/adult.

I can’t wait for another year in my life! Not that it’s interesting or anything. But I can’t ever wait to see what is going to happen in the next 12 months. For me, my birthday is the start to a new year. It’s always felt that way. And it is. It’s the day you came into this world! It’s the start of your life. It’s the start of another year for you. It’s exciting and nerve wrecking all at the same time. Especially turning 16…. It’s probably just all hyped up. And it may not meet our expectations. But that’s alright. We can make it the best year of our life if we want to! It may not seem like the best now or 4 months from now. But when you’re 40 you may look back and say: “yep that was a great time in my life.” Just because you have a few bumps or maybe even mountains you have to make it through, over or around doesn’t mean it’s not going to be great. I’ve always heard ‘whatever doesn’t kill you can only make you stronger’ your hard times are going to give you character.

I’ve heard many people say this is going to be the best time of your life! I can see that in a way. You’re still young enough to have all kinds of fun that you may not be able to enjoy when you’re older. But you also will have more responsibilities. This can both be a good and a bad thing. (Not like horrible bad.)  It means that your parents and others are going to start to see that you’re growing up and can handle a little extra responsibility. But it also means you are going to start losing some of your young freedom and will not have time to just goof off and be crazy every minute of the day. You are now expected to start acting like a young adult at times. (I know - sounds boring right? But it’s all a part of growing up, I guess.)

Now let’s see…

 I’m 16 and………

Never been kissed! Well…. Actually I did receive my first kiss from my, Beau. He’s so handsome! He stands over 6ft tall…

His kiss was all wet and slobbery…. It just about covered my whole face!!!

Did I mention, Beau, was a horse?? =D

Never held a boys hand…… Does this seem innocent in your eyes? Well if you’re cool with it- sure thing go right ahead! But I feel that it’s a very romantic gesture. Call me old fashioned all you want. ‘Cause you know what?! I AM! ;P I am so very old fashioned in soooo many ways!

Never had a boyfriend. (shocker right? I like it this way actually.)

I MUST be deprived right??? Or maybe I have really mean and strict parents!  In my opinion; not really. I quite like the way my life has turned out so far. And my parents are definitely  NOT mean. They set standards that they would like me to live by. Nobody’s perfect so of course I’m not going to hit the mark every time. But I sure like to try!!  I have never once regretted not having a boyfriend.

While most of the girls around me have been with guys since we were like 11 or 12 all it ever seemed to do to them is break their hearts and they’re left to try and pick up the pieces of their heart… or what’s left to pick up. And me? Well I’m always there if they need a shoulder to cry on, or someone to vent to, or just make them laugh and forget whatever happened. I always thought the whole idea was pretty stupid. In modern dating all that ever seems to happen is heartbreak! Why is that? I don’t know. Maybe because some don’t take the time to get to know each other before they get together or in some cases “hook up”… Now I’m not saying this always happens! But sometimes it does. And it seems to happen way too often.

But I’m 16 now! I can date!!!..... Says everyone else. I still don’t want a boyfriend. It’s way too much to deal with while I’m still in school and trying to get my life on the right track. I want to concentrate on graduating high school, then college, and working on my dancing career (If there is one… I just want to share my love for dance with others!) Boys would be waaay to much time and effort. More than I’m willing to put in at the moment.

Now if God puts the right guy in my path and says ~ HEY! Look there’s your man!~ And if he tells me it’s the time then I’ll go for it. Other than that- nope I don’t have any plans of starting a relationship till later on. =D

Everyone has told me my WHOLE life… you’ll change your mind… You’ll change your mind when your 12.                               You won’t feel that way when your 13… Just WAIT till your 14. Well your 15 now I’m sure you’ll change your mind. Just wait you’ll see…

I am now 16 and can still proudly say with my head held high that I have never had a boyfriend. Maybe I’ll go scream that from the rooftops on my birthday. Why you ask? Because it will be funny and I am proud that I have made it 16 years without a guy in my life. I don’t need someone else to hold me up or to tell me every second of the day that I’m beautiful.(I am also not implying that is all a boyfriend is for. I know they can be there to love and protect you. But that’s not my point right now.)  I’m not saying I don’t need that reassurance every once in a while. But that’s what my Heavenly Father is for. He tells me every single morning just what he thinks!

 When I wake up he’s like~ Good mornin’ darlin’, how are you feelin’ today? You know you’re beautiful right? You may not always love every part of yourself. But I do. You want to know why? Because you are fearfully and wonderfully made. You were made in my image. I never made a mistake with you. You are perfect in my eyes. Don’t ever forget that.

God’s trying to tell you this- sweetheart you know that birthmark above your lip that you hate so much? I put it there for a reason. You may not see it now… But everything I do has a purpose. I think it looks cute on you. I love you! Never forget that.

No matter what it is that you don’t like about yourself. Just remember this- you are not made to look like the supermodels in the magazines. They are not made to look like that either! If you ever saw them up close you would see they have imperfections just like you and me. And also remember this- you don’t need a guy to tell you you’re beautiful. Because you have a Father in heaven that loves you just the way you are. No matter what. He’ll always be there for you!

You probably think I’m the slightest bit crazy right about now, huh? You’re probably right! ;D I am a bit crazy at times! But you still love me! Don’t bother denying it. One day I will meet the right guy and when I do..well who knows? I pray we both seek God in keeping it real & putting Him first. <3

Anyways guys! I love you all! Thanks for readin’! Tell your friends. Share please! Put it on Facebook, Twitter, and MySpace (do people still use that?). Whatever it is you use! Word of mouth works just fine too!

Peace, Love, and Happiness,

Puritygirl ☮ 

P.S

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ANNNNDDD!!! Our total page view as of right now is 648! For a small town girl that just seems huge!

Again love everyone and Thanks for taking the time to read this it means a lot to me!

Peace and Love from me to you! <3